Staying grounded: Why I don’t typically tour despite my love of travel.
As I prepare for my upcoming tour in Manhattan, NY, I’ve had several men reach out to ask when I’ll tour in their cities. After all, my website indicates that I love to travel.
It’s true: traveling is one of my passions- quinary after food, dogs, books, and education. But while I love traveling, I have plenty to keep me at home unless I’m traveling to see a special gentleman.
1. I am a part-time companion with a full-time professional job.
I love the time that I spend with my special gentlemen. But I also have a full-time job that utilizes my master’s degree and provides me with constant mental stimulation. I love my full-time job, and while I will move projects around when a gentleman calls upon me to visit him, I am reluctant to detract too much from my job by increasing my travel schedule. Add to that the fact that successful tours typically revolve around weekdays, and tours simply don’t fit well with my professional life.
2. Personal Priorities
I have a full life here in Indianapolis. I’m lucky enough to have family nearby and friends that I see regularly. I have two adorable dogs that I spend much of my time cuddling or playing with. Relying on gentlemen at my homebase of Indianapolis with one (or occasionally two) FMTYs a month allows me to balance my personal priorities with my love of companionship.
3. Financial Considerations
Touring requires substantial financial investment, including travel expenses, accommodation, marketing efforts, and potential overhead costs. In contrast, traveling expenses and accommodations are covered by my gentlemen when I do a FMTY. While tours have the potential for massive upside, there is also a chance that there could be a financial loss from a tour.
4. Nurturing Local Connections
I adore the local connections that I have in Indianapolis. And while I do hope to build lovely connections with gentlemen on this trip to NYC, I’m averse to spread myself too thin by balancing client bases in many cities. Staying rooted in Indianapolis, with occasional forays into my other favorite cities (NYC and potentially DC), allows me to nurture and strengthen my connections, fostering a sense of community and camaraderie.
5. Quality Over Quantity
Touring can sometimes lead to a frenetic pace, with travel and changing accommodations leading to a build up of stress. I value the quality of my companionship over the quantity of men that I get to know. Additionally, for a tour to be financially viable, a companion typically needs to see more men than she would ordinarily see. I want to ensure that I’m my best, sparkliest self with each of my gentleman. By choosing not to tour, I can dedicate more time and attention to each of my gentlemen, ensuring that we share the most delightful experience together.
6. Maintaining Work-Life Balance
Despite holding down a full-time job and dating gentlemen on the side, I deeply value my work-life balance. I enjoy waking each morning, reading for a bit, going for a run, and then going about my day. Touring can be disruptive to this equilibrium. The demanding schedule and constant movement associated with touring can take a toll on well-being and personal life. I don’t generally tour because I have decided to prioritize my mental and emotional health, which allows me to continue to be the best and most engaging version of myself.